Tag: authenticity

What It Means to Live Authentically Through God’s Eyes

Living authentically is about walking in truth. It means letting go of the pressures of the world, the opinions of others, and the weight of expectations that don’t belong to us.

Live authentically through God's eyes.

From the time I can remember, I have felt a deep calling to teach, to encourage, and to help others discover who they truly are in Christ. Recently, that calling took on a new dimension when I completed an intensive program to become a Certified Authenticity Life Coach.

On my very first day of certification, I met with a woman who faced a struggle many of us can relate to, choosing between pleasing others and honoring her own God-given path. She has a servant’s heart, always eager to help, but this time she was torn. Someone wanted her to take on a responsibility that didn’t align with her true calling, and she felt pressured. Her heart said no, but her fear of disappointing others said yes.

That moment reminded me of the truth found in Psalm 139:13 (NKJV):
“For You formed my inward parts; You covered me in my mother’s womb.”

God did not create us by accident. He carefully designed every part of who we are, our bodies, our personalities, our emotions, and even our unique ways of serving others. When we ignore that divine design and allow others to push us away from our true purpose, we step out of alignment with the life God created us to live.

The Holy Spirit whispers to each of us, guiding us toward the purpose that brings glory to God and fulfillment to our souls. Your talents, your passions, and your voice are not random; they are gifts meant to be used authentically.

Jesus said in John 8:32 (NKJV):
“And you shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free.”

Living authentically is about walking in that truth. It means letting go of the pressures of the world, the opinions of others, and the weight of expectations that don’t belong to us. Instead, we anchor ourselves in the promises of God.

When we choose to “seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness” as we are reminded in Matthew 6:33 (NKJV):
“But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.”

…we find a freedom this world cannot give. We discover peace, joy, and fulfillment, not because life is perfect, but because our hearts are aligned with God’s will.

To live authentically through God’s eyes is to live in truth. It’s to accept that He made us intentionally. We are to love ourselves as His creation, and boldly walk in the path He has prepared.

When we do this, life becomes lighter. Our service becomes more meaningful. And our joy? It overflows.

Reflection

Ask yourself today: Am I living the life God designed for me, or am I letting the expectations of others pull me away from His purpose? Remember, authenticity in Christ is not selfish; it is obedience. When you embrace the person God created you to be, you not only walk in freedom, but you also bless others with the unique gifts only you can give.

Prayer

Heavenly Father,
Thank You for creating me with intention and love. Help me to hear Your voice above all others and to walk boldly in the path You have prepared for me. Teach me to live authentically, seeking Your Kingdom first, and trusting that everything I need will be added in Your perfect timing. May my life be a reflection of Your truth and grace.
In Jesus’ name, Amen.

“You Do You” and Other Left-Handed Compliments

Left-handed compliments are passive-aggressive. They’re sly. And they often leave you wondering, was that supposed to be nice?

Since publishing my book Transformation, I’ve been on a personal mission, one that’s both exciting and a little terrifying, to become the most authentic version of myself. I’ve been journaling the journey, collecting the lessons, and slowly shaping them into my next book, Nurturing the Soul. My hope is that it will one day serve as a gentle light for others walking their own path toward self-acceptance.

The very first step? Deciding I was done pretending.

For years, I wore a mask so seamlessly that even I forgot it was there. I smiled, I served, I poured myself out for others, so much so that I started losing sight of the person underneath the performance. Don’t get me wrong, I value kindness and service deeply. But somewhere along the way, “serving” others became a cover for something else: a fear of letting people down. And when you fear disappointing others, you learn to swallow your own needs… and sometimes even swallow insults.

One type of insult I’ve swallowed more times than I can count is what’s known as the left-handed compliment.

What’s a Left-handed Compliment?

Also called a “backhanded compliment,” it’s a remark that sounds like praise on the surface but is wrapped around a little barb of criticism. It’s a way of smiling at you while simultaneously poking you in the ribs.

It’s passive-aggressive. It’s sly. And it often leaves you wondering, was that supposed to be nice?

The truth is, these kinds of comments are less about lifting you up and more about putting you in your place. And while they might seem harmless to the speaker, they can sting, especially if you’re used to brushing things off in the name of keeping the peace.

So, let’s talk examples.

10 Examples of Left-handed Compliments

  1. “You do you.”
    Translation: I think your choice is weird, but hey, if you want to be wrong, that’s on you.
  2. “Wow, you look great… for your age.”
    Translation: You look good, but let’s not forget you’re no spring chicken.
  3. “I could never pull that off, but it works for you.”
    Translation: That outfit is questionable, but somehow you manage to survive it.
  4. “You’re so brave to wear something like that.”
    Translation: I would never wear that because I think it’s awful.
  5. “You’re actually pretty good at this.”
    Translation: I assumed you’d be terrible, but you’ve exceeded my low expectations.
  6. “That haircut makes you look… different.”
    Translation: I don’t like it, but I’ll pretend I’m neutral.
  7. “You look so much better than you used to.”
    Translation: You were a mess before.
  8. “You’re so confident!”
    Translation: I wouldn’t have the nerve to do what you’re doing, because it’s risky (or silly).
  9. “I wish I had the freedom to dress like you do.”
    Translation: You clearly don’t care what people think, and maybe you should.
  10. “You’re surprisingly articulate.”
    Translation: I didn’t expect you to sound intelligent.

Nurture Your Soul

Learning to spot these backhanded compliments has been one of the most freeing parts of my journey. They no longer slip by unnoticed. And more importantly, I no longer feel the need to laugh them off to avoid making things awkward.

Peeling off the mask isn’t just about being honest with others; it’s about being honest with yourself when something doesn’t feel right.

The more I practice this, the more I realize that nurturing the soul sometimes means pruning away the voices that don’t feed it. And I think that’s a compliment worth giving… and receiving.