Christians Get a Bad Rap

Let me clear this up: Christians are not perfect. If we were, God would’ve already upgraded us to Heaven Premium.

I think Christians get a bad rap. Some people imagine we walk around glowing, clutching our Bibles, judging everyone like we’re on the Heavenly Olympics of Holiness. Spoiler alert: we’re not perfect. If we were, we’d probably already be in heaven sipping angel-inspired lemonade.

Let me clear this up: Christians are not perfect. If we were, God would’ve already upgraded us to Heaven Premium. We’re just regular people doing our best to become the person God had in mind when He made us, flaws, typos, and all. We’re kind of like a lifelong spiritual renovation project.

When we make a personal decision to believe in Jesus, it doesn’t mean we think we’re better than anyone else. It means we’re trying to live by heaven’s house rules while still surviving earth’s chaos. Earth is basically a temporary Airbnb, and heaven is the forever dream home with no drama, no hate, and definitely no internet trolls.

Now, heaven probably isn’t letting in people who thrive on being mean, messy, and full of negativity. Think of it like a gated community with strict Homeowner Association (HOA) rules. The Bible is like our version of Bylaws and Covenants, Conditions, and Restrictions (CC&Rs), with rules like: No haters, no troublemakers, and no bad vibes allowed.

Jesus is the gatekeeper, and we can only get to heaven through Him. And, friends, when I show up at heaven’s front door, I’m hoping my name is on the guest list. I dream of a place with zero gossip, zero hate, and absolutely no comment sections. That’s why I try to live with kindness, respect, love, and good intentions, because I figure that ups my chances of getting past the velvet rope.

Now, do I get it right all the time? Absolutely not. I’m human. Sometimes I mess up, trip over my own attitude, recognize my mistake, and say, “Lord, my bad.” I ask for forgiveness. The Lord forgives me, and I keep going. Every time I try again, I feel like I’ve levelled up spiritually.

I’m not here to force anyone to believe what I believe. You might not even think heaven or hell is real, and that’s your choice. I’m just explaining why I live the way I do. For me, loving beats hating. Kindness beats cruelty. And positivity beats being miserable any day.

So, if you see me trying to be good, just know I’m not acting holy, I’m trying to keep my reservation at Heaven’s All-Inclusive Resort.

Stewardship of Praise

When a believer is working under the guidance of the Holy Spirit, acknowledging their obedience does not rob God of praise; it returns it to Him.

Sometimes, Christians mistake deflection for humility. We see it often: a pastor delivers a powerful, life-giving sermon, and when someone says, “Thank you,” the response is a quick dismissal, with eyes lifted upward and hands raised, as if to say, “It wasn’t me; it was the Lord.” Worship leaders do the same, shrinking back when thanked for a Spirit-led time of praise, believing that accepting a compliment somehow diminishes God’s glory.

But Scripture teaches us something deeper.

When a believer is working under the guidance of the Holy Spirit, acknowledging their obedience does not rob God of praise; it returns it to Him. The Apostle Paul understood this balance well. He wrote:

“I worked harder than all of them—yet not I, but the grace of God that was with me.”
— 1 Corinthians 15:10 (NIV)

Paul did not deny his effort, nor did he claim the glory. He recognized the work and credited the power behind it. That is true humility.

When someone thanks a spiritual servant for a job well done, they are recognizing evidence of God at work. To reject that acknowledgment outright is not humility. It risks silencing the testimony of what the Holy Spirit has accomplished through willing hands.

The better response is to receive the compliment with gratitude and intentionally pass the praise where it belongs. A simple, sincere acknowledgment honors both the obedience of the servant and the power of the Spirit working through them.

So accept the compliment, and then offer it upward.

That is not pride.
That is stewardship of praise.

Nurturing the Soul – Start Your Journey Toward Spiritual Growth

Life moves fast. Responsibilities pile up. Noise surrounds us. And somewhere along the way, our souls quietly ask for care.

In a world that constantly pulls at our attention, many of us feel spiritually tired, even when our faith is strong. Life moves fast. Responsibilities pile up. Noise surrounds us. And somewhere along the way, our souls quietly ask for care.

That is exactly why Nurturing the Soul: A 30-Day Journey Toward Spiritual Growth was written.

This book was created for people who desire a deeper connection with God but may feel overwhelmed, disconnected, or unsure where to begin. It is not about perfection. It is not about checking spiritual boxes. It is about creating intentional moments, small, meaningful pauses, to reconnect with God, reflect on life, and allow the soul to breathe again.

Why Nurturing the Soul Matters

We spend so much time nurturing others, our families, our careers, our communities, that we often neglect our inner life. Yet the soul needs care just as much as the body and mind. When the soul is neglected, it shows up as exhaustion, discouragement, and spiritual dryness.

Nurturing the Soul invites readers to slow down and return to the basics of faith: reflection, prayer, Scripture, and honest conversation with God. Each day of the 30-day journey is designed to gently guide the reader into deeper awareness, healing, and spiritual renewal.

This is not a book you rush through. It’s a book you sit with. A book you open each day as a sacred appointment with God.

What the 30-Day Journey Looks Like

Each day in Nurturing the Soul offers:

A focused spiritual theme
A carefully selected Bible verse
A devotional reflection meant to encourage, challenge, and uplift
Gentle prompts that invite personal reflection and prayer

The journey is structured, but flexible. Whether you are new to daily devotionals or returning after a long break, this book meets you exactly where you are.

Some days will feel comforting. Others may stir deep emotions. All of them are designed to help you grow spiritually, emotionally, and personally.

The Companion Journal: Going Deeper

Alongside the book is the Nurturing the Soul: 30-Day Companion Journal, created for those who want to go deeper in their reflection.

The journal is not an afterthought; it is an intentional extension of the journey. Writing has a powerful way of bringing clarity to thoughts, healing to emotions, and depth to prayer. The Companion Journal provides dedicated space to:

Respond to daily prompts
Record prayers and spiritual insights
Reflect honestly without judgment
Track growth over the 30-day journey

Many readers find that journaling transforms reading into an experience. It turns inspiration into action and reflection into lasting change.

Together, the book and journal create a sacred rhythm: read, reflect, write, pray, and grow.

Who This Journey Is For

Nurturing the Soul is for:

Anyone feeling spiritually weary or disconnected
Believers seeking renewal without pressure or guilt
Those navigating life transitions, grief, or uncertainty
Readers who desire a quieter, more intentional faith practice

You do not need to have all the answers. You simply need a willing heart.

An Invitation and How to Begin

If your soul has been longing for stillness, clarity, or renewed faith, this journey is for you.

Nurturing the Soul: A 30-Day Journey Toward Spiritual Growth and the accompanying 30-Day Companion Journal are both available on Amazon, making it easy to begin whenever you’re ready.

Simply visit Amazon, search for “Nurturing the Soul: A 30-Day Journey Toward Spiritual Growth,” and consider pairing it with the 30-Day Companion Journal for a richer, more transformative experience.

Your soul deserves care.
Your faith deserves time.
And your journey can begin today: one day at a time.

This World is Not Our Final Home

We are not meant to find our peace or fulfillment in this broken world. The hurt we experience here is temporary, no matter how deep it feels.

Everywhere we look today, it feels like the world is unraveling. People lash out in anger, friendships are torn apart, and love seems to grow colder by the day. It’s heartbreaking to witness how easily kindness is forgotten and how often relationships are sacrificed over pride, selfishness, or misunderstanding.

For those who are on the receiving end of pain, betrayal, rejection, or cruelty, it’s natural to feel the urge to fight back, to retaliate, to defend your heart. But God’s Word calls us to something higher. Hebrews 13:14 (NLT) reminds us, “For this world is not our permanent home; we are looking forward to a home yet to come.” This truth gives us the strength to respond differently.

We are not meant to find our peace or fulfillment in this broken world. The hurt we experience here is temporary, no matter how deep it feels. Our citizenship is not of this earth; Philippians 3:20 (NLT) declares, “But we are citizens of heaven, where the Lord Jesus Christ lives. And we are eagerly waiting for him to return as our Savior.”

When we remember that heaven is our true home, we gain perspective. The pain others inflict doesn’t define us; it refines us. Every trial becomes an opportunity to draw closer to Christ, to model His grace, and to reflect His light in the darkness.

So, when you feel like the world is falling apart around you, take heart. God sees your tears. He knows your hurt. And He promises that one day, all wrongs will be made right. Until then, walk in peace, love without fear, and keep your eyes fixed on the home that awaits you, where there will be no more sorrow, no more betrayal, and no more pain.

Heaven is our final destination. Let’s live each day with that hope in our hearts.

Related Song: This World Is Falling Apart

For anyone who has been hurt by the players in this world, remember, this world may be harsh, but we have heaven to look forward to. Please click to hear the song and video inspired by Hebrews 13:14 and Philippians 3:20.

Courage to Be Yourself When the World Pressures You to Conform

Living with integrity may cost us in the short term, but it blesses us in ways the world can never offer. When we refuse to conform to the world and instead let God direct our thinking, we walk in His perfect will.

Scripture Reading

“Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.” – Romans 12:2 (NIV)

Standing Firm in Integrity

In business and in life, it’s easy to feel the pressure to do what everyone else is doing. Sometimes that pressure comes in the form of a subtle nudge: “Just bend the truth a little.” Other times, it’s more direct: “If you don’t cut corners, you’ll fall behind.”

I am a real estate broker, and I remember a time early in my career when I faced a moment when I was urged to smooth over the facts in order to make a transaction move forward more quickly. On the surface, it seemed harmless. No one would get hurt, and no one might even notice. But in my spirit, I felt the weight of that decision. Would I conform to the pattern of the world, or would I stand firm in truth?

I chose integrity. The deal didn’t move as fast as others hoped, but God gave me something much more valuable: peace in my heart and the confidence of knowing I had honored Him. Later, I realized He also strengthened my reputation. Clients knew they could trust me because I was unwilling to compromise, even if it meant moving things along more quickly. Cutting out steps in the process would have meant closing the transaction sooner; however, these missed steps had the potential to be an issue in later years.

That’s the beauty of living God’s way. Integrity may cost us in the short term, but it blesses us in ways the world can never offer. Romans 12:2 reminds us that when we refuse to conform and instead let God direct our thinking, we walk in His perfect will.

Reflection Question

Think of a time when you were tempted to compromise your integrity. How did you respond? Looking back, what do you think God wanted to teach you in that moment?

Practical Application

Today, commit to one action that reflects integrity in your work or personal life. It may be as simple as telling the truth in a difficult situation, keeping your word even when it’s inconvenient, or refusing to take an easy shortcut. Trust that God will honor your obedience and strengthen your witness.

Prayer:
Lord, I don’t want to conform to the ways of this world. Help me to stand firm in truth and integrity, even when it costs me something. Renew my mind so that my choices reflect Your will, and let my life be a testimony of honesty that points others to You. Amen.

Learning to Trust God’s Timing in Seasons of Waiting

God’s timing is not always ours. We may feel abandoned, but the truth is, He is preparing us for what’s ahead. Seasons of silence are not signs of rejection; they are times of preparation and growth.

Scripture Reading
“But they that wait upon the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint.” – Isaiah 40:31 (NIV)

“To everything there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven.” – Ecclesiastes 3:1 (NIV)

Reflection
Recently, I found myself walking through some of the lowest valleys of my life. At seventy years old, I thought I would have “found” myself by now; surely my purpose would be clear. Instead, I struggled with silence from heaven and the weight of unanswered questions.

I tried harder, worked longer, and sought to prove myself worthy of God’s attention. But instead of fulfillment, I felt emptier than ever. Then, as if silence weren’t enough, I began to lose loved ones, friendships, income, and even peace of mind. My life felt like it was unraveling thread by thread.

In that place of despair, I cried out one more time. Though I still didn’t hear an answer, God met me where I was. At church, during worship, the pastor prayed over me, and for the first time in a long time, I felt joy breaking through the hollow spaces of my heart. Later, a friend reminded me that this season of loss was preparation. God was not taking from me to punish me; He was making room for where He was leading me.

That reminder brought me back to Scripture: to everything there is a season. When we wait on the Lord, even in silence, He promises to renew our strength and lift us on eagle’s wings.

Application
God’s timing is not always ours. We may feel abandoned, but the truth is, He is preparing us for what’s ahead. Seasons of silence are not signs of rejection; they are times of preparation and growth.

Reflection Question
Have you ever felt like God was silent and doubted His timing? How might God be preparing you in this very season?

Prayer
Father, thank You for reminding me that Your timing is perfect, even when I don’t understand it. Help me trust You in the silence, and strengthen me to wait on You with hope. Renew my spirit so that I may walk faithfully into the season You are preparing for me. Amen.

What It Means to Live Authentically Through God’s Eyes

Living authentically is about walking in truth. It means letting go of the pressures of the world, the opinions of others, and the weight of expectations that don’t belong to us.

From the time I can remember, I have felt a deep calling to teach, to encourage, and to help others discover who they truly are in Christ. Recently, that calling took on a new dimension when I completed an intensive program to become a Certified Authenticity Life Coach.

On my very first day of certification, I met with a woman who faced a struggle many of us can relate to, choosing between pleasing others and honoring her own God-given path. She has a servant’s heart, always eager to help, but this time she was torn. Someone wanted her to take on a responsibility that didn’t align with her true calling, and she felt pressured. Her heart said no, but her fear of disappointing others said yes.

That moment reminded me of the truth found in Psalm 139:13 (NKJV):
“For You formed my inward parts; You covered me in my mother’s womb.”

God did not create us by accident. He carefully designed every part of who we are, our bodies, our personalities, our emotions, and even our unique ways of serving others. When we ignore that divine design and allow others to push us away from our true purpose, we step out of alignment with the life God created us to live.

The Holy Spirit whispers to each of us, guiding us toward the purpose that brings glory to God and fulfillment to our souls. Your talents, your passions, and your voice are not random; they are gifts meant to be used authentically.

Jesus said in John 8:32 (NKJV):
“And you shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free.”

Living authentically is about walking in that truth. It means letting go of the pressures of the world, the opinions of others, and the weight of expectations that don’t belong to us. Instead, we anchor ourselves in the promises of God.

When we choose to “seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness” as we are reminded in Matthew 6:33 (NKJV):
“But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.”

…we find a freedom this world cannot give. We discover peace, joy, and fulfillment, not because life is perfect, but because our hearts are aligned with God’s will.

To live authentically through God’s eyes is to live in truth. It’s to accept that He made us intentionally. We are to love ourselves as His creation, and boldly walk in the path He has prepared.

When we do this, life becomes lighter. Our service becomes more meaningful. And our joy? It overflows.

Reflection

Ask yourself today: Am I living the life God designed for me, or am I letting the expectations of others pull me away from His purpose? Remember, authenticity in Christ is not selfish; it is obedience. When you embrace the person God created you to be, you not only walk in freedom, but you also bless others with the unique gifts only you can give.

Prayer

Heavenly Father,
Thank You for creating me with intention and love. Help me to hear Your voice above all others and to walk boldly in the path You have prepared for me. Teach me to live authentically, seeking Your Kingdom first, and trusting that everything I need will be added in Your perfect timing. May my life be a reflection of Your truth and grace.
In Jesus’ name, Amen.

The Destructive Power of Gossip

Gossip not only harms the one being spoken about, but it also damages the heart of the one spreading it.

At first glance, gossip can seem harmless. A whispered conversation here, a casual remark there. It may even feel like a way to bond with others. But gossip is far from innocent. Words spoken in secret often have the power to wound, destroy reputations, and leave people feeling broken and isolated.

The Bible warns us many times about the dangers of gossip. “A perverse person stirs up conflict, and a gossip separates close friends” (Proverbs 16:28, NIV). What may feel like light talk in the moment can actually sever relationships and plant seeds of distrust that last a lifetime.

Gossip not only harms the one being spoken about, but it also damages the heart of the one spreading it. Jesus reminds us that “everyone will have to give account on the day of judgment for every empty word they have spoken” (Matthew 12:36, NIV). Our words are not empty. They carry weight, either building others up or tearing them down.

For those who have been the target of gossip, the pain can run deep. Hurtful words have a way of echoing in our hearts long after they were spoken. But God offers healing. Psalm 34:18 reminds us, “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” If gossip has left you wounded, know that God sees your pain and draws near to comfort you.

As followers of Christ, we are called to a higher standard. Instead of gossiping, we are commanded to use our words for encouragement. “Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs” (Ephesians 4:29, NIV).

Imagine if, instead of tearing others down with gossip, we chose to speak life into them. Imagine if we guarded our tongues and replaced idle chatter with words of hope, kindness, and truth.

Allow me to distinguish the difference between sharing about others in a private counseling session and sharing about others in a gossiping session. When you share with your counselor, it is not considered gossip. In counseling, your resolve can be significantly enhanced by knowing the details of who you are referring to, as the counselor guides you toward healing and resolution. On the other hand, sharing about others in any other situation would rightfully be considered gossiping.

Sharing about others can even be disguised as helpful when it is, in fact, gossip at its finest. For example, when someone says, “I’m only sharing this with you so you know what to pray for,” that’s not concern, it’s gossip wrapped in spiritual language. Don’t fall into that misconception. Instead, pray for others without needing to reveal their private struggles. God already knows the details.

Today, let us take a moment to reflect:

Are my words drawing people closer to Christ, or are they sowing division?
Do I use conversations to build trust or to spread rumors?
How can I encourage someone today with words that heal rather than words that harm?

Let us commit to being people who speak with love, grace, and integrity. After all, “Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruit” (Proverbs 18:21, ESV). May we choose life, always.

Prayer:
Heavenly Father, help me to guard my tongue and resist the temptation to gossip. Let my words be filled with grace, encouragement, and truth. Heal those who have been hurt by careless speech, and use me as a vessel of Your love. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

Preparing for Greatness

Whenever God prepares you for greatness, He often begins by removing everything that no longer serves your growth.

Whenever God prepares you for greatness, He often begins by removing everything that no longer serves your growth, like people, habits, places, and even comforts that once felt essential. What feels like loss is often divine pruning. He breaks down what is unstable so He can rebuild something unshakable within you. This breaking is not punishment, it is preparation. It’s God clearing the path for a stronger, wiser, more refined version of you.

Just like a caterpillar cannot become a butterfly without shedding its former self, you cannot transform by clinging to what once was. The cocoon is a place of isolation and undoing, but it’s also the sacred space where wings are formed.

You may feel like your world is collapsing, but in truth, it’s being realigned. Some people will fall away, not because they dislike you, but because they are no longer meant to go where God is taking you. They were part of your past, not your purpose. And that’s okay. As one wise man said, “It’s better to walk alone than to walk with those who are going nowhere.”

Let God do the removing, the refining, and the reshaping. What He rebuilds will be greater than what you lost.

Three Life Lessons from My Mom: Wisdom That Still Speaks

Love without expecting anything in return.

By Marlene Bertrand

There are some people who leave a mark on your heart that time cannot erase. For me, that person was my mother.

While she’s no longer with us, the wisdom she passed on continues to guide me, and it has the power to guide others as well. Her lessons weren’t grand lectures or complicated philosophies. They were simple, deeply rooted truths that touched every part of life.

Here are the three life lessons my mom taught me, lessons built on love, forgiveness, and grace.

Lesson 1: Love Without Limits

My mother was the very definition of love in motion.

When you looked at her, you saw love.
When you talked with her, you heard love.
And when she said, “I love you,” it wasn’t just words; it was a feeling that wrapped around you like music for the soul.

She believed that love should be unconditional and freely given.

“Love is love,” she’d say.
“If you’re not loving with your whole heart, without expecting anything in return, then you’re not really loving.”

She took her cue from Scripture and lived these words daily:

“A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.”
— John 13:34–35 (NIV)

Her life was a living example of Jesus’ most excellent command.

Lesson 2: Forgive as an Act of Love

To my mother, forgiveness wasn’t a sign of weakness; it was a strength born from love.

She often told me:

“When you love, you forgive. And when you forgive, you love.”

Forgiveness was woven into everything she did. She understood that no one is perfect, and that to love people genuinely, you have to be willing to let go of their wrongs.

She reminded me of this truth often:

“For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.”
— Matthew 6:14–15 (NIV)

Her grace was quiet but powerful. And because of her, I strive to walk in forgiveness every day.

Lesson 3: Judge Less, Love More

“Don’t waste time judging others,” Mom would say.

“Focus on your own walk. You’re not perfect either.”

She taught me to be self-reflective rather than critical. And whenever I felt justified in calling someone out, she would gently nudge me back to humility with her favorite reminder:

“Do not judge, or you too will be judged.”
— Matthew 7:1 (NIV)

And then, she’d follow it with:

“You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.”
— Matthew 7:5 (NIV)

Mom always emphasized personal accountability over finger-pointing.

“Unless you’re perfect,” she’d say,
“You have no business throwing stones.”

“…Let any one of you who is without sin be the first to throw a stone at her.”
— John 8:7 (NIV)

Her words shaped my heart and the way I treat others.

A Legacy of Love That Lives On

I miss my mother more than words can say. But I am so grateful for the legacy she left behind.

Her lessons were never forced; they were lived. And they continue to inspire me to love more deeply, forgive more quickly, and judge less.

If there’s one thing my mother would want you to remember, it’s this:

Everything, absolutely everything, comes back to love.

What life lessons did your mother or mentor teach you?

Share them in the comments below. I’d love to hear your stories.

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